Through my life experiences, I have acquired a level of “wisdom” about what it takes to make love work. Yes, I said make love work –
1. form (something) by putting parts together or combining substances; construct; create.
“my grandmother made a dress for me”
synonyms: construct, build, assemble, put together, manufacture, produce, fabricate, create, form, fashion, model
2. cause (something) to exist or come about; bring about.
“the drips had made a pool on the floor”
For one, I know that my husband and I are different in many ways. Opposites attract 😉 One of our differences includes our “love language”. Knowing each other’s love language is extremely important. I would even venture to say it is one of the most important things to know and understand about each other.
Naturally, many of us express love in the very way we want to receive love. We are wired to “understand” love in this way. At any rate, we must know that each person is different. For example, you may surprise your partner with a thoughtful gift as an expression of your love. Your partner may appreciate the gift but may not fully react the way you would expect. Whereas you might be elated about this sort of gesture if you were on the receiving end, it could be that your partner has a different love language. It could be possible that he or she values another gesture more than a gift, such as a back massage, receiving a compliment from you, watching a movie together, or receiving help around the house. These sort of gestures are symbolic of the five love languages (respectively):
- Receiving gifts
- Physical touch
- Words of affirmation
- Quality time
- Acts of service
If not already, I encourage you to discover your love language, your partner’s love language, your child/children’s love language, etc. Once you discover it, learn to express love in the way that the other person is wired to understand love. This is one way to make love work.
You might be able to guess the love language based on how you or the other person express love. For example: Are you or the person known for giving thoughtful gifts? Are you or the person known for planning quality time together? These might be signs.
You could also “Discover Your Love Language” by taking this brief quiz:
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